Lately I’ve been having a lot of trouble sleeping. Sometimes I wake up at 4 am and just can’t get back to sleep. So instead of lying in bed awake staring at the ceiling, I just get up and start my work day. And while I do get a lot of stuff done before most people are awake, unfortunately this morning instead of 4:00 am it was 2:30 am! Now, I’m definitely a morning person…but this is ridiculous. I mean 2:30 am is not really even morning, it’s kind of still night don’t you think? Ugh! I know part of my sleeplessness has to do with the fact that The Hubby has been traveling for work a lot and this house feels ten times larger when I’m in it alone. Of course since I’m taking care of my parents dog right now not only do I have Quinley for protection, I also have their dog as well. So all in all I do feel safe as they would never let anyone un-welcome in the house. Honestly I would hate to see what would happen to someone if they tried to get in. But The Hubby will be back today so I don’t have to worry about that.
I think the other reason for my insomnia, at least this morning, is because I read a very unsettling email yesterday posted by a fellow blogger, Hindsight Bride. The post was actually an email sent in by a photographer which Hindsight Bride posted on her blog. And in a nutshell the photographer basically went on a ranting rampage about how ALL wedding bloggers only post weddings that have mason jars, burlap details, wildflowers, stuffed initials, distant mountains, tea-length dress, etc., etc. and that incorporating such details into a wedding is impossible for most “average” brides. The email also accused us bloggers of ignoring average weddings and pretty much said we’re all starting to look alike anyway. And to my surprise, of the 200 + comments, many were in support of what this photographer had to say.
To me, that is shocking! And I take great offense to it because I am working my a** off to make this blog a success by posting all kinds of weddings, but mainly supporting the work of good photographers. Also, I am constantly trying to make my content different from other bloggers. Now I know this photographer wasn’t exactly talking about my blog, I mean for all I know she has never bothered to look at other blogs outside of the ones she is ranting about. And although in her email she does state there are some bloggers “doing it right”, I’m still rather perturbed by her classification of ALL of us and I’m mystified as to why she would write such things. Besides, even if she isn’t referring to my blog, since the wedding blogging community is kind of small, she’s pointing her finger at the blog of a friend or colleague I have collaborated with at some point in the past and I feel I need to defnd them as well.
Sure there are some blogs who do only post weddings with certain details, but that is their choice. That’s their brand and if you or any other photographer submits a wedding to them that doesn’t fit their brand, guess what…they’re not going to accept it. And that’s the same for ALL bloggers and print media as well. For example, take Vogue Magazine or Vanity Fair, do you think they would ever publish any average looking models? The answer is no, because as much as we don’t like it, “average” doesn’t sell magazines. And the same goes for some of the blogs you are referring to. They didn’t get to their lofty status by publishing “average” weddings. On the contrary they gained their popularity by publishing, high-end, detail heavy weddings that brides and wedding professionals like to look at and are inspired by.
So, in conclusion, if you don’t like what certain blogs publish, don’t visit them and definitely don’t submit to them. There are PLENTY of other wedding blogs out there and we ARE all different so please don’t classify us all as “looking” the same. We all work really hard at what we do and I think your hateful words are unfounded and basically a sign of insecurity. And in my opinion, your bitterness is just an uglier form of envy.
Image courtesy of Stephanie Saul Photography
I’d like to hear what you think about this. Are you in support of what this photographer had to say or do you feel the same as I do?
Please share your thoughts.