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Kindness Really Does Matter

Mark Twain said, “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” Honestly, I think there are no truer words.

Today I’m taking another departure from weddings and fashion and home to talk about something that, in my opinion, really does trump everything else. It’s a thing called kindness, and while I’ve been guided by it my entire life, I’m often surprised by how many people think nothing of it.

If you know me at all, you know I am a huge fan of The Ellen DeGeneres Show and The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon. But it’s not only because they’re funny people, which of course they are. It’s because the kindness they have for ALL people radiates from them into their audiences and through our television sets like the warm sun after an exceptionally cold winter. Ellen and Jimmy are, simply put, kind people. And it shines through in everything they do, including their success.

Anyhow, the other day during a hectic time at work, I flipped Ellen on the TV knowing I wouldn’t be able to watch completely, but wanting to listen anyway. Good thing I did because her segment with Josh Radnor from How I Met Your Mother was the catalyst for this post. Rather, it was an article titled Kind Over Matter that Josh wrote for the Los Angeles Times that made me want to shout from the rooftop with my fist in the air, “Yeah, ditto to that!” Because you know what? Kindness really does matter.

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In a snippet from his feature, Josh writes:

“It really shocks me when I encounter people who think kindness doesn’t matter. Because I think it’s pretty much the only thing that matters. This should not be mistaken as a call for humorlessness or some naive, fussy moralizing on my part. It’s not about being “good” (a loaded concept, to say the least) or “nice,” which is really just a social convention that often has to do with worrying about being liked (occasionally masking real deviousness). It’s ultimately about compassion, recognizing that all of us are going through it all in our own particular way, no matter our social status.”

Clearly the entire article spoke to me and it couldn’t have come at a more opportune time.

Like Radnor states in his article, I think a lot of people mistake being “nice” or “good” for kindness when anyone can be nice or do good things, but just as easily turn around and be mean spirited towards or about the very person they “thought” they were being kind to. That’s not kindness. Kindness comes from the heart and is given unconditionally without expectations from the giver for anything in return.

Being kind takes guts and strength because it often means extending kindness to those who don’t deserve any such favor. But that’s how kindness works. We are not to pick and choose who receives it and who doesn’t, we should simply give it out to everyone equally and with an open heart. That’s kindness.

So whether you’re dealing with difficult people during the planning of your wedding or maybe you’re having trouble with a challenging situation at work or perhaps the Barista at Starbucks got your order wrong, everyone deserves kindness. If we want more if it around, we need to lead by example.

In the famous end of show and oh-so appropriate words of Ellen DeGeneres, Be Kind To One Another.

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  1. @FabYouBliss
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    Kindness really does matter! http://t.co/MIT8O1HBKb

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  2. Erika {Borrowed & Bleu}
    View March 20, 2014

    I want to hug you right now, Stephanie! 🙂

    Sometimes, it’s hard to believe there is much kindness in the world in the shadow of so much hate, cruelty and, most commonly, indifference.

    I wish everyone could aspire to be kinder to one another.

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    • Stephanie Elizabethreplied:
      View March 20, 2014

      Awe, virtual hug Erika. And I agree, if only we could make kindness a highly infectious incurable disease 😉

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    • Chelseareplied:
      View March 20, 2014

      I agree with Erika’s sentiments! <3

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  3. Cris of Kiss My Tulle
    View March 20, 2014

    Beautiful.

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  4. Ariana - Hey Wedding Lady
    View March 20, 2014

    Cheers to this! It’s amazing how much a little kindness can transform someone’s day and make a difference!

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  5. Sara
    View March 20, 2014

    Fabulous post! Such a great reminder to be kind – even to those who are not kind to you!

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  6. Sukey
    View March 20, 2014

    This is so wonderful. This blog (and by extension, you!) radiates with kindness and positive thoughts, which is why I love visiting. The thought about nice + good is interesting too – I’ve probably lumped kind/nice/good together, but kind really is its own special thing. Great post!

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  7. @dressforthewed
    View March 20, 2014

    Are you kind? http://t.co/ty19f1AgLu @FabYouBliss

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  8. Christie O. {Mountainside Bride}
    View March 21, 2014

    This is so lovely. I too have been actively practicing kindness for a while now. I am kind and respectful to PR people, to vendors, and even to the occasional person who tries to dress me down for “not doing my job properly.” I have found that kindness is closely related to to things: empathy and gratefulness. When someone is angry with me, I try to assume that their anger is reasonable given what they understand of the situation. My job is to listen, empathize, and help troubleshoot the problem with them. This simple act of listening with an open heart paves the way for kindness. I also actively give thanks everyday. Big things and small things alike. I am equally thankful for my lovely career as I am for the times I’m just relaxing and petting my little dog. Having a grateful heart keeps my happy and even-keeled, so when something negative happens, I have the perspective of how lovely life really is and therefore I feel confident, relaxed and less threatened about whatever has come up. It’s that confidence that let’s me in turn listen with an open heart, and thus practice that kindness 🙂 Does that make ANY sense?

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  9. @mtnsidebride
    View March 21, 2014

    Kindness Really does Matter on @fabyoubliss http://t.co/JB14YbsIzL

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  10. Angelica | The Bridal Detective
    View March 24, 2014

    Erika’s sentiments are perfectly said. I especially love what you said about kindness being an ‘ infectious incurable disease’. This post definitely brightened my day! Xo

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  11. @BridalDetective
    View March 24, 2014

    Monday mornings just got a mega dose of kindness! http://t.co/OvTYVRSd11 via @FabYouBliss

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  12. 52 Weeks of Happy: Week 3 - Fab You Bliss
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    […] before judging, or acting unkindly or petty towards others, and just think about that. As I wrote in this post, we need to remember that what we do and say, and sometimes what we don’t, can really affect […]

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