If you came here to find out why this is the most important real wedding ever featured, stick with me, you’ll know the reason soon. Usually, I don’t write provocative, eye-grabbing titles like this. It’s not FYB’s style. But I’m hoping this wedding will get the attention it most certainly deserves. So if the title brought you in, it did its job. Because six weeks after this beautiful wedding took place, the groom unexpectedly passed away.
Jessica and Nick’s wedding took place at the St. Regis in Park City, Utah almost a year ago in May. Understandably, the photographer, Pepper of Pepper Nix Photography, held onto the wedding out of respect for the bride. But a couple of months ago, the bride Jessica contacted Pepper saying she wanted their wedding to be published as a way to honor her beloved Nick.
So here we are, and I’m beyond touched to be the blog to do the honoring. Thank you, Jessica, and family, for allowing us to share your gorgeous day. I hope I do it justice, and I hope it fills your hearts with happy memories!
Here are some questions and answers which the bride and groom answered together while he was in the hospital.
How did you and your spouse meet? My daughter Kasie met him first. Kass was friends with Nick’s niece for about ten years. They hit it off instantly, and about two months later I met Nick, and Kass said, “Mom I really like him I think you should too!”
Who proposed marriage and how did that proposal happen? Nick proposed in Anaheim California. Nick and Kass had this whole big deal planned out. We were going out there for cheer competition, and one night after practice they wanted to go to the beach. Out of nowhere, I wanted ice cream and said so, which is strange because I’m more kind of “go with the flow gal”. But I did want ice cream. Then, after ice cream, I say oh we need to run to the store and get hair ties for Kass that we forgot. Needless to say, they both were acting so weird I had no idea what was going on. Finally, we made it back to the hotel room, and Nick drops to his knees and says, “I can’t wait a minute longer, will you please spend the rest of your life with me and marry me?
Describe your bridal attire. My first gown was a ball gown, strapless, sweetheart neckline, very princess-like if you will. It was fitting to walk down the aisle. The second dress was a formfitting mermaid dress, and to me it said, “Hello I married, I’m Mrs. Tonc, and I’m going to shake my butt off. The second one was a little sexier, if you will. For my jewelry, I wore simple pearls that Nick bought and picked out for me. My makeup was on the softer side, but not typical bridal make up. I wanted to be just a little bit brighter with more of a pop. My hair was curled half up and half down with a cathedral veil and just hints of diamond sparkles
What inspired the wedding day outfits? Honestly, I let everyone pick what they wanted, I gave color schemes and said please wear something that you will love and feel comfortable in.
What shoes did you wear? So, this is not glamorous, but I just wore cute white flip-flops. The girls wore a rose gold wedges.
Bridesmaids dresses My maid of honor, who is my daughter Kass worre a strapless dress that went to roomies and had the same texture at the top as my dress did. Chandra my bridesmaid wore a long mint green dress with straps, with beadwork same as my dress had.
Groom’s attire? A charcoal gray tux with mint green. Oh how handsome he looked!
Did you do a First Look before the ceremony? Yes, we did and we were so grateful because, at first, we thought, no, traditionally you don’t see each other before walking down the aisle. But then we thought how special it would be for such a busy day for Nick and me to have a moment just us. It was wonderful to see how handsome he was. Nick told me how beautiful I looked, and I watched his eyes fill up with tears as my tears ran down my face. You’re not really able to have such a tender moment at the altar with everybody around!
Was there a decor theme for the ceremony? Yes, our idea was to create something soft and romantic.
What was your ceremony music? we had a harpist play God Bless The Broken Road, as I walked down the aisle.
Who was your officiant? Rev. Craig Gordon. He was absolutely the best and we’d recommend him and use him 100 times over.
Where was ceremony held? We originally picked the Grand Lawn at the St Regis, but due to rain we had to move it inside to the ballroom.
Why did you choose that location for your ceremony? We picked outside because you don’t really need to do much, the beautiful surroundings stands alone.
Did someone escort you down the aisle? Yes, Nick’s dad Anton did because he has been our biggest supporter and he treats me just like I’m his daughter. The pride in his eyes and his voice when he said he was giving me away brought both Nick and me to tears.
What was your favorite ceremony memory? Besides the fact that I was marrying my best friend, my soulmate and the person who no matter what loves me unconditionally and will always be there to pick me up if I were to fall, it would be the sand ceremony which was Nick’s idea. All three of us, Kass, Nick and I, each had a vase with different color of sand, and we took turns pouring it into one center cylinder that said, Tonc, Today, Tomorrow, Forever Family May 23, 2015.
Tell us about your reception decor. Where did you get the inspiration for your color palette and design? The most important thing for Nick and I was to have fun and for our guest to as well. We wanted everyone to feel welcome and enjoy themselves. That’s where the lounge area by the DJ booth came in. We used couches and chairs so people could sit in and talk if they didn’t feel like dancing or walking around. Nick and I love mint green, and we wanted the whole vibe to be classy and romantic, so what better colors than mint green, rose gold, blush/coral. I must warn you in advance, you have to be very specific on your color palette because I had no idea until we started planning and picking things out that there are 100 million different versions of mint green! We had the tent draped with white flowing fabric and hanging chandeliers. We also had a see-through tent so you could still see the mountain views and the beautiful stars at night.
Describe your wedding flowers We chose spring flowers, bright, soft and tons of them by Amanda at Decoration Inc..
Were there any DIY projects? If so, can you describe them in detail? I wish I could take credit for it, but I ordered a guest book puzzle off of Etsy, along with handmade signs. One for the puzzle and one for our moms.
Describe your wedding cake The biggest thing I did not want was for our cake to be like every other wedding cake I’ve seen. I wanted it to be white with diamonds wrapped around, not real diamonds. Also, you wouldn’t know by looking at it, or even cutting it, but only three of the layers were the real cake.
Who was your caterer? St. Regis. Appetizers were bacon wrapped shrimp, bite-size grilled cheese with tomato soup and some type of cheese ball. Everything was delicious. We chose a fish and poultry. My favorite part of the menu was how much everyone enjoyed the food.
What was your favorite reception memory? Dancing and spending time with my husband, along with meeting all of his amazing family.
What was your first dance song? Tim McGraw and Faith Hill, It’s Your Love
Favors/gifts for guests Shot glasses that could also be used as votive candle hold with our names, the day one them, with a T for Tonc.
Describe your invitations We did save the date magnets with the calendar and the dates circled. I’m big on not cluttering up my home or other peoples. The invitations were also done by Elizabeth, and my best way to describe them is classic elegant.
Why did you choose a mountain wedding? Nick, my husband, fell in love with the St. Regis the minute we stepped on the property. We also thought it would be a fun way to do a destination wedding, but without the hassle of long traveling. Plus we got to spend the weekend with our close friend’s and family.
What was the weather like on your wedding day? It rained the first part of the day which I considered good by the evening as it was beautiful, fresh, and clean.
What were some personal details you incorporated? A tribute to our mothers, pink and purple roses on the chairs they would’ve sat in, and our family sand ceremony.
What you would have done differently, if anything? We did a sweetheart table. Looking back and having such a small intimate wedding I don’t think I would’ve done the sweetheart table. We would’ve preferred to sit with some family and friends.
What is your very best advice to other brides? To not get so caught up in everything being perfect. And when things get overwhelming, or they’re not going the way you want them to, to take a moment, breathe and remember how lucky you are to be marrying the person of your dreams. And at the end of the day, all that matters is that you two found each other, and you’re building a life together. People will remember how in love the two of you are and how you were together before they’ll ever remember what their place setting looked like or what color your table cloths were.
Thanks for stopping by!
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Photographer: Pepper Nix Photography | Cake Designer: Deer Valley Snow Park Bakery | Makeup Artist: Jill Marie Artistry | Officiant: Rev. Anita Gordon and Rev. Craig Gordon – Utah Wedding Minister | Event Planner: Bluebird Event Destination Management | Event Designer: Bluebird Events | Floral Designer: Decoration Inc. | Reception Venue: St. Regis Deer Valley in Park City UT | Submitted via Two Bright Lights