Aaaaaaaaaahhhhhg…sorry this is so long, I tried to shorten it…but without all the words, there wasn’t a story. Pun definitely intended 😉 Besides, since we’re friends here…I feel like I can talk to all of you about what’s going on in my life or the lives of people close to me. Anyhow, although this blog primarily focuses on featuring wedding and portrait photographers, the other part is the “lifestyle” part where I offer up fashion tips, recipes, stories about my life as a wife and mom to our adorable Pupp-Awg, as well as general inspiration for living a happy life. That is what I’m striving for at least. My hope is that you’ll benefit in some way from what I write and if so, WHOOP, WHOOP, WHOOP…that is Fab You Bliss!!!
That being said, I have this friend who works really hard at what she does for a living. It’s not me, I swear, and you’ll know for sure soon enough, just keep reading. So my friend is definitely dedicated to her job. She gets up early, she fights seriously awful traffic, (see, I told you it wasn’t me), she takes on too many projects, she works on week nights and on weekends and she genuinely wants to please everyone she works for. She loves her job, although I can’t see why because it’s not creative, it’s technical and complicated where she has to coordinate with multiple people on different levels and everyone has to be working in sync and the whole thing is something I completely cannot understand. But she loves it and who am I to judge, right? I’m sure my career is absolutely foreign to her as well.
Anyhow, a few months ago the company she works for shifted things around and the super cool boss she once had was replaced with someone who has an agenda and isn’t afraid to throw anyone under the bus to get there. Do you know the kind of person I am talking about? I’ve experienced their kind when I worked in the corporate world and honestly nothing good comes from working for them…nothing. If you do the slightest thing wrong your job could be on the chopping block in a matter of seconds. And if you do something right, they will take all the credit. These kinds of people are also very unstable. I mean you never know…one day everything could be perfectly fine and the next, you might be looking for a new job just because they were having a bad day. To me, it is seriously scary to know such people have the power to destroy so many good people’s lives.
So, lately my friend has been traveling a lot for work. In fact, she flies out early Monday mornings and sometimes doesn’t return home until Saturday night only to get one day off, if she is lucky. Then she starts the whole thing over again on Monday. Now as much as she loves her job, I can see this is wearing on her and her marriage since she hardly sees her husband. To top if off, since she is salaried, with all the hours she’s putting in, I think she’s probably making very close to minimum wage. If you ask me, I think her employers are demanding a bit too much from her… and anyone else working for them that’s required to do the same thing . It’s definitely hard to watch all of this happening to someone I care about. And I know she’s having a hard time with it as well because I heard it in her voice when we spoke on the phone yesterday. I guess she took some extra time for herself on Monday morning to visit with her ailing father before she headed back out for her horrendous work week. However, because she ended up getting to her work destination late, her boss really laid into her. I know, WT bleep…right? I mean her dad could pass away any day now and her boss could care less. When are such bosses who want their employees to do a good job for them ever going to learn that a work relationship is like any other kind of relationship. If one person is too demanding with unrealistic expectations and no nooky…the other is going to hit the road at the first possible chance.
But what do you do though? I mean really, what do you do in a situation like this? Basically she is walking a fine line between having to do unreasonable things and losing her job. With our economy the way it is and the job market in the dumps, the last thing you want to do is anger your employer, right? But then again, shouldn’t there be some kind of consideration for having a life as well? It sucks that employees have the bad end of the bargain in this terrible job market and employers know it. They know if you don’t do what they demand, someone else is waiting to take your place as the door hits you in the behind. So sad. I wish there was something I could do for my friend, but the best I can do is hope that her boss , (and most likely her boss’s boss), will develop some sort of compassion for their employees. It is almost the holidays after all. Maybe they’ll be transformed into decent people with the coming holiday spirit. But if they don’t, even with as tough as it is to find a job…I’m betting a lot of people who work for them will be jumping ship really soon.
What would you do if you were in this situation? Please share your thoughts, I’d love to pass them along.
Have a Fab You Bliss Thursday!
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